Definitely Single

Ok, so I am definitely single. No steady boo.  For a moment there, I felt I was in a confessional.  Bless me Father, for I have not had engaged in intimate congress in more years than I'd like to admit.  For this I am heartily sorry.  

It's not a sin to be alone.  I'm sure there are many great women who have had fulfilling lives without a a steady beau.  I recently asked some married women if they would be married if they could go back in time and do it over again.  They admitted that being alone sounded like an enticing option.  After several years of marriage, they lost the romance that brought them to their spouse.  I'm sure true fulfilling love happens.  Several times in my life I've been a witness to some loving wonderful marriages, those relationships are what brings me hope.  Hope that one day I will be beside someone who will warm those old cold memories.

It's been seven months since I started on-line "dating." There have been three gentlemen who I have actually met and dated.  It took me a while to discern the wheat from the chaff.  At first I was falling into the trap of grifters and getting catfished at every turn.  Those bottom feeders prey on women not to gain love and belonging, but for money or material goods. Unfortunately, even men fall victim to this band of miscreants.   

Nun Approved

I had started with Zoosk, went to OurTime, eHarmony, and then Catholic Match.  I met Jim on OurTime.  We talked on the phone several times and finally met for coffee.  He turned out to be a bigot, so that was our one and only date.  In today's society you would think people would be enlightened. They would know that telling racial and ethnic jokes are a sign of ignorance and bigotry.  There is no place for either in my life.

On Catholic Match I met John.  He's bald with a great big smile.  The moment I saw him I wanted to meet him.  We spent some time chatting back and forth on Catholic Match about movies and he finally asked me out.  I was busy for the next couple weeks, so I suggested we talk first.  He called me one night and we had a great time on the phone.  He giggles!  I couldn't believe it.  We were talking about something and he giggled.  How cute is that?  I couldn't wait to meet him so I proposed that we meet in Batavia after a retreat I was going on with my church ladies.  Since it was closer to his house, he picked the restaurant.  I arrived first and sent him a text, "I'm here.  Look for the pretty girl with the red scarf sitting at the end of the counter."  Next to me in the restaurant was a table with six ladies and they were laughing up a storm.  I leaned over and asked what's so funny.  One of the women replied that they just told the waitress that I was paying the check.  Then she told me me it was her birthday.  We introduced ourselves.  They were nuns from down the street where I just came from my retreat.  Sister Karen asked why I was there by myself and if the waitress had forgotten me.  I explained that I was waiting for my date to arrive.  I told her he was coming from Mass.  She said she liked him already.  I shared that this was our first date and we met on Catholic Match.  I requested that she check him out and let me know if she thought he was a loser or a nice guy.  John arrived and we ordered lunch.  The ladies got up and I noticed Sister Karen standing behind John giving me the thumbs up with a huge smile on her face.  I said, "Great!"  John asked me, "what?"  And I said, "oh, never mind."  We had a couple great dates.  We went ice skating, played scrabble, watched a movie at my house, went out for dinner, and went to St. John Passion of Christ in Indiana.  He was interesting and fun.  One night he called me and said it wasn't working out for him.  He didn't feel attracted to me.  I was crushed.  I thanked him for his honesty and for the time we spent together.  I deleted his profile on my CM account.  I couldn't bare to see him again.  I really had fun with John.  I did share with him on our second date that he was, "Nun approved" and he liked the story.  Although it didn't work out with John.  I learned from the experience and look forward to more opportunities.